I am not a perfect mom.
At all. {are you suprised?}
Sophie and I have the same personality. Some days it's a good thing. Other days I struggled to keep my cool.
Some days we both got sent for some Quiet Time.
I quickly realized that we were feeding off of each other. She was frustrated, so I was frustrated. She raised her voice, so I raised my voice. She cried, so I cried.
Not good.
I was reading though the Duggar's book when a short sentence from Michelle caught my eye. She was talking about getting her children's attention by talking quietly and getting down on their level.
I decided that the next time Sophie was having a tough time I'd try it.
A few days later Sophie didn't want to get her shoes on to go outside. I went over, knelt in front of her and spoke in a quiet voice. She actually stopped crying and whining and listened to what I was saying.
By getting down on her level and not raising my voice, I broke the cycle and she calmed down super fast. I also requested that she look in my eyes while I spoke with her.
The change has been amazing.
We've been doing this for about 3 months now. She no longer flips out, and has learned to use a quiet voice instead of a yelling voice.
It's been wonderful!
Had you heard of this technique? What do you do when your child is having a tough time?
